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inculturated. No one hands out a rule book saying, "Do not belch loudly," although etiquette books have always sold well. No one says, "Do not go off to a bedroom with a date and have sex." No one says, "Do not tell people all of your medical complaints," or "Do not spend your time complaining about ethnic groups." However, a person who is at a cocktail party has been
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that they are seeking to uphold, detailing the world they seek to create, or think about the sorts of sanctions available in a non-physical world to create proper function. While I cannot claim to speak for anyone, and I am an "anti-civility" person in general, I hope to point the way for a better consideration and a more fruitful discussion.
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deletion and total exclusion. There is no rehabilitation process possible where there is no full person present, and there is no chance of a fine or penalty. All
Knowledge can do if a user harasses another in real life or posts pictures of explicit sex or underage sex is delete the account and the media and police the user's reappearance.
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respond to me, he can't actually move away. He goes to a different talk page to debate JimmyCrickets, and I post to BoboTheClown again. In other words, every interaction is direct. Whenever we have problems with each other, we have no way to shake each other off. We are never in a crowd, always directly accessible.
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In any rhetorical situation we have the speaker's intention, the medium/culture, and the reader's perception. A good many societies have had trouble with verbal crime in real world situations, and they have had even more trouble with social crimes of speech. Remember the weird, hyperbolic arguments
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or an inability to assess audience properly. Therefore, it is proper and best to explain where the comments went wrong or where the reading went wrong. (It's important that we explain to people who are being unnaturally sensitive that their readings are mistaken just as much as we explain to people
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What is the court, then, for determining if I have been right in calling someone a "bed wetting pissant with no more sense than a box of concrete?" What is the court for determining if that person had been right in saying that I am "a horse's ass" and a "fuckwad" (these are hypothetical examples!)?
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and therefore there is no way to put that statement on a pan in a balance to see just how bad it is. On the other hand, deleting every image I upload with a summary of "rm troll" will break the deletion guideline, and we can easily compare that action to existing policies. The action exists without
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that worldly societies have to legislate, Knowledge has either no need (no bodies are present) or has an assumption. I.e. Wikipedians come from regulated societies, and they carry those regulations with them when they go online. Each person is bound, in a way, by the jurisdiction in which she or he
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It is "in society." (Without stealing my own thunder, online life takes place at home. People do not feel the invitation, do not feel the honor extended, and therefore do not accept the rules of etiquette.) The positive reinforcement for proper behavior is only conversation, flirtation, laughter at
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Therefore: the only way to know whether a person's "rude" or "bad" speech is actually uncivil is to look at the effects they have. Is the person coming back to fight (bad)? Is the person editing less (worse)? Is the person just avoiding the first (not bad)? Is the person explaining the situation
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In my second psycho-drama, you'll notice that the group had worked out its own negotiations. The women iced the guy. They told him what they thought. They might have been offended, but they were probably just pissed off. They might have been reduced to tears, but they were probably just thinking
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is. I gave examples, above, from dinner parties and cocktail parties of boorish behavior. As much as we know these forbidden actions, we know the usual actions that are smiled upon. Ask the other person to talk about himself, hold a door for another person, smile, shake hands, etc. At
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In an actual conversation, physical presence colors everything. If the person is beautiful, respondents will report positive interactions and will be nice. If the person is physically imposing, he or she might be accustomed to intimidation. If the person is disabled in some way, people will speak
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Cocktail parties are as regulated as towns, albeit with cultural codes. Before one attends a cocktail party, one attends a neighborhood birthday party as a pre-teen, then socials as a teen, then mixers in college, and, during all of this, a set of informal expectations and demands are passed on and
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they were friendly enough to take it in the right spirit. He will go away convinced that the woman with the midi-skirt is a horrible person, even though it was the supervisor who had called the training session and made the report. The trainer at the session will tell the man that his remarks had
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A person who is trying to protect the community or defend him/herself may well (almost certainly will) resort to insult or other disincentive language designed to push the other person away. If the person being "harmed" this way is engaged in harming the community, it is not "incivil" to use these
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party, but you are welcome down the street at the frat house kegger." (N.b. I do not advocate any method of ejection, either.) In fact, things have to get bad, stay bad, and then get worse before an RfAr starts, and then, after much suffering, the person who hates the subject might endure a block
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In a conversation online, we have the illusion that many people are present, and yet each conversation is one on one. I post to BoboTheClown, in the midst of Bobo's argument with TimmyDGnome, and it seems that I am "in the middle," but I have directly contacted one person. If Bobo doesn't want to
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Remember the point, above, about how all communication at
Knowledge is one-on-one. If I see that you have written, "This is bullshit, d0de!" it's odd for me to announce that you were being profane, if you were writing to someone who expects, understands, and traffics in that language. If, on the
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in language, I hope. Most languages and dialects have at least three registers: official, familiar, and slang. Basically, a person speaks one way to a judge in court, another way to wife/husband, and yet another way to the closest friends. These three registers each have their own syntax, their
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The drunk at the party is ejected, but the
Wikipedian who is legitimately insane can't be shuttled away. We have various "do not feed the trolls" platitudes that are efficient, if followed, but when someone is actually nutso, there is little to do about it. The informal and formal social actions
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Online, "Nobody knows you're a dog," but nobody knows you're the lost Tsar of the
Russias, either. The phatic and social and physical portions of communication can be a burden in actual life that is shed by those online, and they can be vital components that are lost, and this can account for the
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emerge, but in most cases
Knowledge sorts these matters very quickly. (The exception is the issue of pornography, which remains open on Knowledge, just as it does in the regulated societies that Wikipedians come from.) When it comes to breaching such regulations, Knowledge has only one response:
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there is actually no need to build a regulated society at
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No one person decides for the party that you're a "drag." Instead, you have to annoy quite a bit of people to do that. A slip here or there does not get you thrown out. You do not have specific laws to obey, nor are there specific enforcements. The party doesn't have a group in it going around
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It may seem that I am making distinctions without difference, and perhaps I am being a little literary, but these distinctions, I believe, bear fruit. They can at least help to explain why different
Wikipedians will claim to be for "civility" and disagree utterly about the propriety of insult and
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Perhaps no issue has been as longstanding a bone of contention as "civility." The term has bedeviled all electronic discourse, from the old days of BBS's, Usenet, and the like to the current days of web forums and cooperative editing environments. In few cases have people analyzed the conventions
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By that standard, my calling a member of the ArbCom a moronic, corrupt, incoherent, self-serving, auto-sodomite is probably not going to be very bad. I doubt he will quit the board over it. If I call him those things because of some evidence of corruption or actual incoherence, I'm probably not
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What we have to do, if we think that someone is being unjust, is appeal to a very, very wide audience. If you think that my exchange with you has been improper, you need a wide group to agree. You have to establish what the cultural norms are, here. The norms here are probably more restrictive
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A regulated society online is possible, but it is unlikely. Would a community online set up a legislature? Well, Knowledge has something akin to one in its policy process. Other sites that have laws have top-down designs, where some official body (moderator, owner, dude-who-founded-it, domain
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In the physical world, sociologists tell us that communities spend a vast amount of energy setting up codes of belonging. They enforce their own group identity by inclusive and exclusive strategies -- by rewards of belonging, statements of what it means to be a member, rites of passage for full
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The usual tactic of social negotiation -- warning gesture, then withdrawal of presence -- simply does not work online. I can't get away from you, no matter how much of a creep I am, if I'm not actually "there" in the first place. Also, you can't rub me off on a nearby cluster of idiots, if my
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I used to moderate a forum on a BBS network on
Feminism. Guess who the new members were every day? Yep: the "women should shut the hell up and get back in the kitchen" crowd. Who were the new members to the Christianity group? Atheists. Because we had top-down structures, we ejected those
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Think about, for example, the recent mortgage crisis. Prior to de-regulation, banking laws had forbidden the combination of stock trading and banking. This had arisen out of a prior age's experience with monopoly. The laws were stricken in the US in the 1980's, because the argument was that
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page wanting to call him names all day, that person can get by on the talk page with the most ridiculous stuff, and the people who try to keep the page mainstream and neutral will have to fight every day against that person. There is no mechanism on
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Many people think of us as being like a cocktail party, online, and not many like a regulated society, and yet it's obvious that neither model is appropriate, because we're online. We're no particular place. I cannot see your face, and I am not showing mine. This brings up the next step in
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for the words, based upon your experience. You cannot see inside the house. Was it filled with red flags, or were the walls covered in pictures of Jodie Foster? You cannot see the hands of the people. Was one crossing fingers, or was another holding up a single finger extended? Were the
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We must recognize that slang, profanity, and vulgarity are both bonding and exclusion language. Just as some groups will use their online slang (e.g. "cluebat" and "clueful" and "gnoming") to create a subculture of inclusion, so some will use online (or otherwise) slang to create an
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as destructive. Laws provide both a positive and a negative enforcement mechanism. When you are "legal," you rise in the regulated society, and some will have honor days, civil awards, and the like, and when you break the law, you bring about penalty that is, like the law itself,
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of verbal communication) may be unfit for a cooperative editing environment. A person who is culturally blinded (some cultures have multiple registers of profanity, with some registers acceptable for mild annoyance and others only for starting fist fights) can learn the
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that are propounded, and there are lessons of "good citizenship." The invisible city has nothing like that. So, on the one hand, Knowledge can't be a regulated society, doesn't need to be, but, on the other, by only responding with prohibition and censure, it has no
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There is the withholding of rewards (instead of laughing at your blind-guy joke, I make an ugly face), the withholding of conversation (I walk away from you, as you begin to talk about your recent colonoscopy), the withholding of opportunity (I let it be known that
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This is the most important element of all: the reader cannot say that an insult or compliment is warranted, because "warranted" depends upon community standards. Furthermore, and this is one of those important features of language in action and online life,
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by preferring an online, manufactured society over the duties and functions of the actual. I know that I'm antisocial enough for any three people. Nevertheless, let's set that aside and focus on the fact that, for some reason, people are wanting to
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Any effort at cautioning would have to be based on a person who does more than one or two bad moves. Any effort to use a community sanction for a single comment or exchange would be disproportionate and really against our common goals (cooperative
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the worst possible way to assess whether comments were "incivil" is by diffs that isolate a comment. The whole community has to look at the whole context to determine whether a person's rhetorical strategy is a reasonable response or not.
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It is an enormous topic, how societies police themselves, and so I beg leave to look only at commonplaces and extremes and to examine only the large, legal community and the small, unregulated community (the town and the cocktail party).
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They're "natural." They have implied rules (e.g. a person who really knocks the hell out of someone who had been only a little rude will have it "blow up" on him and find himself being shunned). They have measures of effectiveness.
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own vocabulary, and their own lists of taboo and licit language. Additionally, languages themselves, lexically, will list terms as "formal," "informal," and "profane." What happens when we mess up in conversation is that we use one
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Civility applies to those qualities that make for a strong social unit. These include politeness and deference in conversation, but they are not tantamount to them. Civility is that which makes the site's community function
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The PC problem was one where we had to decide if that guy had sexually harassed the woman who was dressed up. In the Harassment Awareness meeting and training session that followed, he protested vociferously that he had not
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capital markets govern themselves best when they have no inhibitions or prohibitions on pure supply and demand. Now, legislators are considering re-establishing such regulations. This set of laws arises out of experience.
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Note: This page is meant to be a (long) analysis of why we have trouble with "civility" at Knowledge, why we argue when we try to discuss it, and why there are only specific ways forward. When this is done, I will create a
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A really dramatically illegal action will get a ban. A really dramatically impolite speech act will provoke a severe insult, a long winded derogation, a shunning forever, or a brutal ridicule. The important thing is that
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What happens when the people in your town begin blaming immigrants? What happens when they want to lynch someone? What happens when they want to try the school teacher for teaching evolution? In actual life, there are
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My hypothesis is that most of the arguments about "civility" are arguments between "civic virtues" and "politeness." Those who want civic strength may want impoliteness, and those who want politeness may not want civic
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other hand, you have addressed your comments to a general audience, I can fairly easily say that your words are vulgar, because, at least in English, all general address is presumed to be at the upper social register.
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will never be invited ever again), and, finally, the withholding of presence (I manhandle you toward the door and give you a shove). Notice also, though, that the things that will trigger these coercive behaviors are
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Speaking in formal language to one's close friends may be "snooty," and speaking with profanity to one's doctor may be gauche. Additionally, we violate the social graces when we are intentionally mean or vicious.
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lives. Because of this, most people who call for rules are calling for them about speech rather than action, and this allows them to miscast their concerns as concerns with politeness and well regulated speech.
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The problem with talking about civic virtues at Knowledge is that the shedding of real life burdens of personhood and the building of online presences means that Wikipedians are, to a greater or lesser degree,
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Because of the sluggishness of regulation and the coercive nature of it at Knowledge, there are few declarations of rights, few positions of freedom, and no encouragement of those things that build a society.
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persons very quickly, but not without side effects. Online, we had no way to call a cab for the drunks except coercive exclusion (and then those people would rejoin under other names and be even angrier).
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This is a very important point, and I hope it's not lost in the clutter: We cannot get away from someone who disagrees with us. If e-mail is enabled, we can't even get away fully by leaving Knowledge.
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jokes, and agreement. The cocktail party rewards its players with friendship. (This, of course, is also at play in the online world.) However, what we care about here is what happens when a person
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Therefore, the person is assumed to feel an honor or obligation. The host has offered a place of congregation, possibly food and drinks, and has extended invitations, and therefore participants will
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psychological appeal and revulsion of online communication. However, what we need to care about here is that these channels, and there are at least four major channels, of communication are simply
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Therefore, it is a social grace to not be profane, but that only means knowing one's audience and pitching the language appropriately in terms of culture, age, familiarity, and expectation.
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There are a few places where issues of action come into play, but these are rarely ambiguous. The problems of pornography, age of consent, pedophilia, stalking, and real world harassment
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Additionally, multiple communities ("cocktail parties," below) have felt this frustration or desire, noted that there is no ruling group, and have appointed themselves the "clueful," etc.
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and through a mechanism that is intentionally masked. Western legal societies distinguish between "civil" and "criminal" law, the law of corrective behavior and of punitive behavior.
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of doing so now, in my forties, even speaking to the very same people. I might now say "bitch" of someone I dislike who is female (not likely, but possible) with my close friends and
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The party functions by group negotiation, and its rules are unstated; when there is a doubtful case, parties defer to others, and there is no particular set of penalties and sanctions.
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commit the double atrocity and absurdity of thinking that words, by themselves, have a quality of being allowed or disallowed and that the use of "bad" words is "incivility."
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differently to the person. If a person is old or very young, the conversation changes. If a person is in a palatial manor or a tarpaper shack, the conversation changes.
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discussion group is not fit. That person is going to start arguments and try to dismantle the conversation. Neither the Brady Committee persons nor the NRA member is
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On Knowledge, you can look at any highly charged topic for an occasion of "incivility" because there is no way to eject a participant. If a person comes to the
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generally, but you shouldn't be at hot button pages where you hate the way the mainstream views the subject." We don't have a way to say, "You can't come into
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These virtues are sometimes directly at odds with social graces, or the arts of conversation. For example, blowing the whistle is often the same as ringing a
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to indicate the vehemence of my disgust, while, for another person speaking to friends, that might be a normal slang term for any female. The point is that
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Those uses of "bad words" (including exclusion slang) that are designed to create factions within Knowledge rather than to invite participation are uncivil.
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society, laws emerge to address behaviors that have proven to be destructive to the welfare of the community, and they emerge to prevent behaviors that are
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that the guy was clueless. He will either learn not to speak like that, or he won't be able to speak to them again. However, the supervisor has
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If a person is behaving in a way that harms the community, or if a person is being anti-social, then we have two different methods of response:
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As I said well above, there is a long discussion of "civil virtue" that we can look at. Heck, in the US, youngsters even take a class called "
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So, if you think that I have been "incivil" by calling you a turd, should you block me? No. You can testify that you felt insulted, but you
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If a person is not being civil, per above, then polite behavior is, in fact, corrosive to the group, to the society, and, in fact, "incivil."
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He can determine that the comments pass a line proscribed in his rule book, but he can't tell whether that was harassment or just stupidity.
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The town functions by law, and law is made without any knowledge of a particular individual, and it is enforced blindly (at least optimally).
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from my worst "enemies" at Knowledge to someone doing a Google search. How do I know what is profane to my audience? On the other hand,
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To be pleasant is to avoid anything that might give disquiet to another user and to provide interactions that primarily give to others.
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Now, in that little psycho-drama, you are missing the facial expressions of both "Man" and "Proselytes." Because you can't see them,
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can determine what the community holds as its standards, and no single member of the community can speak for the rest, and because
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than at SomethingAwful, but they're not Queen Victoria's. Essentially, if we want to determine whether or not a person has been
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The most important failure of the invisible city is that it has no reward, no citizenship, no public spirit. It has no rules of
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A good many users feel that the flat hierarchy is a problem. While few will knowingly or explicitly call for a dictator (or
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when we have these virtues as unambiguous goals can we have the second layer of goods, the "pleasantness" of conversation.
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to regard any use of exclusion slang as an intentional offense, and we have to look at the motivation and effect of it.
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Saying, "You suck, loser!" is boorish, childish, and a violation of the rules of conversation, but those rules are
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Note that profanity is only profanity when it is, literally, profane. "Profane" and "vulgar" are assessments of
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Those uses of "bad words" that are designed to win an argument rather than to protect the community are uncivil.
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Have I just argued that we have nothing but a Wild West model? Have I just argued for utter permissiveness?
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A person who consistently makes mistakes about the rhetorical environment or the speech community is either
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Those uses of "bad words" that are for the private gain or for the personal detriment are actually uncivil.
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Frumpy Pseudo-intellectual: "I was going to the cafeteria, but if you guys are going out, I'm going too."
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Therefore, you cannot judge whether or not the speech is out of bounds because you're only one speaker,
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obey codes of behavior that are not found at home (where all of the above behaviors may be allowed).
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The frogs prayed to Zeus for a king to save them, and he sent them a log. That wasn't good enough.
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Additionally, there are different settings and definitions of fittingness. We all know that the
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Man: "Well, I need to find a nuclear trigger, and then I'll finally be ready to end the world."
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or ban. The failure of the "I'm calling you a cab" feature has resulted in much frustration.
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Pants Suit: "Hi. Are you going to the cafeteria for lunch, or are you going out today?"
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rather than inherent qualities of words. A term is "vulgar" when it should not be used
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Pants Suit: "You know, on second thought, we probably don't have time to go out today."
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You also cannot hear the inflection of the language. Was Proselyte #2 sarcastic? You
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There are all sorts of terms for the extralinguistic communication that exists in any
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Man: "No thank you. I believe I am already well informed about the end of the world."
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because that utterance was in response to something, and yours was in response to
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A breach of the rules of conversation at Knowledge will not be against any policy.
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If we shine light, we might well cool the environment and make everything sweeter.
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being overly informal or vulgar that their assessment of the community is wrong.)
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Some members of the community may eject or physically assault the cad.
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A person will see the faces of the other people showing displeasure
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A person whose goal is for the greater good may well be "incivil."
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patriarchy. Between intention and reading, we have a dilemma.
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So, the social graces would include at least these qualities:
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Boorish behavior carries its own rewards (and punishments).
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602:Perfect chivalry and unicorns: both are fables.
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890:Most violations of politeness will be mistakes
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769:behaviors.
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513:antisocial
508:community.
504:government
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349:utterance.
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106:impersonal
91:Real towns
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953:incapable
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907:(uncivil)
760:context.
608:etiquette
588:virtuous.
547:pluralism
329:strength.
285:civil law
283:sorts of
161:move away
127:willingly
97:regulated
72:ostracism
65:strength.
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1165:Category
964:culture.
788:Shunning
746:behavior
584:politely
565:contrite
450:illegal,
280:However,
259:King Log
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186:unstated
123:invited.
101:foreseen
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686:anyone
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