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Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist on laying blame and asserting that women don't want them because they are too "Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin
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female attention because they act "nicely"—not out of the goodness of their hearts or because they care, but because they want something in return—and then spend their time whining about the "fact" that women only want to date jerks. As the site
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