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predetermined before the activity begins. BDSM is sexual play, and such punishments are not carried out in a real world context, as said before, in that BDSM activities are predetermined, the scenes are made up, and none of it is carried out due to any real misbehavior of the submissive to any actual, real rule. There are "rules" separate from the BDSM scene, such as the safeword being used to signal an unwillingness to continue, and not doing a specific activity, which makes one uncomfortable, and then there are rules in the context of the play which are set to be broken and punished, these are the "play rules". Punishment should also not be confused with BDSM training which may involve giving pain simply in order to increase the endurance limit of the sub. Sometimes, disciplining may avoid punishment altogether, and instead a hard glance or loud voice from the dominant may be effective.
170:, though similar. S&M involves giving pain/torture to a "sub" for the sake of the physical pleasure of the "sub" and/or "dom". In BDSM discipline, punishments given are meant to derive pleasure from the psychological aspect of being inferior, by having to be "taught" and punished like a child or animal, as well as the vulnerability, rejection, and humiliation the "sub" may feel when being punished, and the humility and vulnerability the "sub" may feel after "learning" to overcome their feelings of inferiority and reconcile with the dominant by apologizing and emotionally accepting the punishment for their perceived wrong. One thing the two activities have in common is that there are
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Punishments in BDSM are carried out with the consent of both the dominant and the submissive. Such punishments carried out are agreed upon, set up, and talked about before the beginning of a BDSM scene or the signing of any BDSM "slave contract", and the misbehavior of the submissive is also usually
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and does not pertain or adhere to reality) the sub how they should behave as well as the consequences that may arise as a result of breaking the rules of behavior. When subs receive punishment for breaking the set rules, they "learn" (again in the context of sexual play) self-restraint and become
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The sub may also be given the option of choosing his/her own punishment. For example, for a minor mistake made repeatedly, the punishment can be an option either to be caned a few times (physical punishment) or to be paraded nude in public with a pet animal leash (mental punishment). For a major
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